Narcissistic woman traits can be very confusing. According to Victims of police-reported family and intimate partner violence, in 2021, the rate of family violence was 2% lower than in 2009, while family violence against women and girls decreased by 5% and increased by 4% for men and boys. It is because of more reporting of the so-called “silent violence” which, before the 2020’s, has been largely tolerated because the female accuser often gives an impression of soft, kind and reasonable personality traits.
However, it is not impossible to discover traits of Narcissism in your wife and your children’s mother. Some common traits that may be seen in a narcissistic woman include:
- An exaggerated sense of self-importance and an intense need for attention and admiration
- A belief that they are superior to others and an entitlement to special treatment
- A lack of empathy and difficulty recognizing or understanding the feelings of others
- A preoccupation with fantasies of power, success, and attractiveness
- An excessive need for control and an inability to compromise
- A tendency to exploit or manipulate others for their own gain
- A lack of accountability and an inclination to blame others for their mistakes or shortcomings
It is important to note that these traits may occur to varying degrees and may not be present in every narcissistic individual. Additionally, it is important to keep in mind that these traits may be part of a larger pattern of behavior and may be accompanied by other psychological or emotional difficulties.
Narcissistic woman traits consistent with Emotional Violence
Narcissistic woman traits often overlap with those of emotional threatening and emotional violence. Emotional abuse is a pattern of behavior that is used to control, intimidate, or manipulate another person through the use of emotional manipulation or verbal abuse. It can take many forms, such as verbal abuse (including yelling, name-calling, and belittling), manipulating the victim’s emotions, gaslighting (manipulating the victim into questioning their own perceptions or memories), or using emotional blackmail (threatening to withdraw affection or support unless the victim meets the abuser’s demands).
It is not accurate to say that emotional abuse is more common or more likely to be perpetrated by women. Emotional abuse can be perpetrated by people of any gender and can occur in any type of relationship. It is, however, very likely that a Narcissistic wife or Emotionally Violent female partner went on “undetected” during years of marriage. It is often too late to discover or confirm that you do have a Narcissistic spouse and to win a legal battle over her. Therefore, you have to be very careful in the next steps.
“Gaslighting”: a common add-on trait in Narcissism
Gaslighting can be a very insidious and harmful form of emotional abuse. It is designed to erode the victim’s sense of reality, causing them to doubt their own perceptions, memories, and judgment. This can lead to feelings of confusion, anxiety, and self-doubt in the victim. Over time, gaslighting can severely undermine the victim’s confidence and sense of self, causing them to become more reliant on the abuser and less able to make decisions or advocate for themselves.